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Parenting During Personal Hardship: Tips From A Therapist
In mindbodygreen’s parenting column,ย Parenthetical, mbg parenting contributor, psychotherapist, and writerย Lia Avellinoย explores the dynamic, enriching, yet often complicated journey into parenthood. In today’s installment,ย she’s exploring how to parent well even during a breakdown. Source link
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How A Psychotherapist Lets Go Of Control & Experiences More Joy
For example, if your toddler has a low budget (hitting, tantrums), they may need deposits (connection, affection), not withdrawals through demands (for example, “sit down,” “stop running,” “if you hit one more time, you’re getting a timeout”). Sometimes, attempts to control their behavior have the opposite impact by actually fueling it (the same goes for…
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Identifying Your Parenting Philosophy: A Psychotherapist’s 5 Tips
For example, if you grew up in a white-dominant American culture, you may really value individualismโversus if you grew up in a collectivist culture, it might not be as important to you that your child can “do it on his own.” If you were raised in a culture of Machismo, you might encourage your daughter…
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A Psychotherapist On Controlling Outbursts During Parenting
In one of my favorite parenting books, Hunt Gather Parent, author Michaeleen Doucleff, Ph.D., states, “What if we think of (children) as illogical, newbie citizens trying to figure out the proper behavior? What if we assume their motivations are kind and good, and it’s just that their execution needs some improvement?” Source link
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A Psychotherapist Explains How How To Deal With Kids Acting Out
In these tough moments, often referred to as survival moments, it’s normal for you to feel self-doubt or dysregulation. It is important that you take care of yourself before giving in to the temptation to rectify the situation with your child. As humans, we co-regulate. This means, the nervous system of the parent either provides…
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Why This Family Therapist Doesn’t Want To Raise “Obedient” Kids
When I reflect on why there is a part of me that values “following the rules,” it’s because I interpret the lack of it as a reflection on me or my parenting. For example, if my kids don’t say “thank you,” on some level I believe people will think that I haven’t taught them how…
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PSA To Parents Who Struggle With Self-Care: You'll Want To Read This
“Self-care” is served up as the answer to many of our struggles. Burnt out? Engage in self-care. Anxious? Practice self-care. Too busy? Do some self-care. Source link